I’m still a “new” mom with 7 month old twins. My biggest challenge so far is dividing my time between the 2 of them and making sure I am giving them each as much of my attention as possible. I’ll take all the help I can get with the mom guilt!

My biggest challenge is the fighting between both of my boys. I know I completely deserve it after all the fighting my sister and I did growing up .

But, I’d love to help them love each other in actions…not just in words. They claim they are best friends…but boy can they fight over their toys!

I am not dealing with the particular issue yet, as my daughter is only 7 months old, but I want to be prepared. My parents did a great job of not spoiling my brother and I, and I want to make sure that I do the same. All around us are people with fancy strollers, deluxe birthday parties, and the latest of everything. We don’t live that way, but I want to make sure we don’t get drawn into that trap as my daughter starts to get older and ask for things. I want her to be appreciative of what she has, to enjoy simple things, and to enjoy the satisfaction of having earned something rather than having it handed to her.

Thanks for letting your readers know about this book!

This sounds like a fabulous book! My oldest child seems to be ok – he’s 11 and understands that I’m not going to give him something he wants just because he wants it. However, we waited 10 years for our second child (secondary infertility). She is nearly one and I am very concerned that I’m going to back down a lot because we waited so long to get her here. I already find myself doing things with her that I never would have done with my son 10 years ago. I need all the help I can get with this little spitfire!

I struggle with time. I want both of my kids to get the time from me and my husband, but at the same time I want them to be independent and be able to do for themselves. I also don’t want them to think that Mommy and Daddy are here to entertain them all the time.

I struggle with my 3 year old and her friendships. I feel bad that she’s always left out even though she doesn’t care. I just worry about her always being the one left out, though I should be happy that she is developing as an individual.

I think entitlement IS my biggest parenting dilemma. My kids come home from school telling me that so-n-so gets more allowance money than they do. Or they find out that their cousin gets twenty bucks for a lost tooth (YIKES!). Or they want to go to Disneyland (we don’t live near California, so this would be extra expensive). Or they NEED a Wii for Christmas. I can’t go more than a day or two without being confronted by something telling my kids that what they have isn’t enough and that we must consume more. What’s a girl to do? Long comment, sorry, What I meant to say was: Please pick me for the book give-away!!!!

My biggest parenting dilemma with my two year old is tantrums – and especially in public.

My biggest dilemma is being a single mom and just providing the basics seems like it is not enough. Kids always want more stuff which just accumulates and clutters the house. I have a 4 year old little boy named Samuel. One day at my dad’s house (who has plenty of money) he gave my son a few dollars when Sam was 2 or 3 years old. Sam walks over to me and says “Here Mom, pay bills” My dad just about had a coronary (heart attack) and said “What are you teaching Sam?” I told my dad that I was teaching Sam how to be responsible and that bills have to be paid first then if there’s anything left over, then we can spend the left over. I work for the State of California and we only get paid once a month, plus we have had furloughs (3 unpaid days per month since last July). I don’t feel that kids should be given an allowance just because they do chores. Now, if Sam takes initiative on his own to seek out additional chores, then he may earn an extra quarter or something like that. I believe money motivates him but he has to learn to go out and earn it and save it to be a responsible adult later in life.

I have a wonderful two year old who constantly challenges my limit setting. My biggest dilemma is finding where the limits should be, trying not to give him everything he wants but at the same time, letting him explore and enjoy things with appropriate boundaries.

With two children only 12 months apart, I have my share of parenting dilemmas! I’d have to say my biggest is dealing with my non-verbal, but very smart, 2.5 year old. I constantly underestimate how much he understands and just how much he as already learned to manipulate me. My husband and I are both the youngest children in our families, so we feel like we are consistently taking shots in the dark with this whole parenting thing, no matter how many different sets of rules we try. In my opinion, entitlement is a plague in our society, and I definitely do not want to add my children to the list of people who think that they deserve the world for nothing.

How to say no without feeling guilty.

Thanks for the compliments! Love your #1 fan! MOM

I would love this book. I have 2 girls that are 5 years apart. I have a hard time spliting my time between the two of them and doing things with both of them that they would both enjoy doing.
thanks

I am struggling with my daughter’s tattling!

I have 4 children who think they should be entitled to all sorts of things that nobody ever promised them. Where do they get these ideas???? Please… I need this book!

What a true dilemna in today’s society! This book sounds wonderful!
Why do I want it? When your 4 year old says for Christmas he wants a real cell phone because two of his classmates have one. I mean come on – this is Pre-K!!! And then the guilt I have for my two sons, ages 4 and 1, sharing a room. I need some wisdom, because honestly other cultures and countries make do with so much less than we here in the United States. I want to raise my boys with the same character that former generations possesed!

As our children (8,6,3) get older – we’re working on teaching responsibility, accountability, chores, etc. It’s hard to change gears when for so long you HAVE to do so much (everything) for them!

Hi,
I live in a town that is full of entitlement children. Every child has a cell phone by 4th grade. My 6th grader just doesn’t get why I don’t think she needs one. There’s also the chores and allowance problem…My daughter says she is the only one who actually has to do chores to get an allowance. She says all her friends get paid more and don’t even have to pick up after themselves. How do I make my girls she that I’m trying to teach them responsibility not punish them? How do I make them see that they don’t need the newest IPod that comes out every year just because their friends get them? It is a problem that I face daily and sometimes I feel like I fail. I’m hoping this book could give me strategies to walk the line between giving and responsible mother. Thank you

This would be awesome! One of my biggest dilemmas right now is money. Give an allowance or not? Pay them for each chore they do or not? Just what is the best way?

My 4 year old has resorted back to “2-year old bad habits”; drawing on wall, playing with the toilet paper, cutting blankets with scissors…anything she can think of, without thought of consequences. I’m keeping a closer eye on her, talking with her about respecting people and things, but until this passes…I’m going crazy!

My biggest challenge right now is getting my 2 year old to share.

I guess my *new* biggest dilemma is seeing what possible entitlement issues I have to look forward to, haha! I guess I feel better about my current dilemma of just teaching my toddler to stay out of my make up drawer.

I have five kids ranging from 13 to 2. We struggle with keeping things “fair”. I definately was much harder on my 13 yr. old than I am on the two year old. I also have a disabled daughter. How do I keep things equitable?

I am a mother of three, but right now my biggest parenting dilemma has to do with my oldest, who is almost 7. My husband and I are having the hardest time getting him to accept accountability for his actions. When he does something wrong, his very first impulse is immediately to blame it on someone else or to just say “it wasn’t my fault!” He has even started lying to get out of trouble. I am having such a hard time figuring out how to approach correcting this problem, as it seems many professionals say many different things. I am just fearful that he will continue to grow without learning to accept responsibility for his actions and to try to conive his way out of trouble, as I know what kind of troublesome teenager that could create! I don’t like it ONE BIT, but I don’t know what to do!

Oh, this sounds like the PERFECT book for me! With having three kids two of whom are twins, it’s hard not giving in to everything they want because they are constantly whining and I just want it to stop. But I know in the long run, I’ll save myself a lot of headache if I don’t.